I'm rebuilding around what my team actually wants

Hey friends,

Work has been picking up again.

January and February were slower on purpose. Paternity leave gave me space to think without reacting. To read without rushing. To test ideas before announcing them.

March feels like a real beginning.

It’s the start of my financial year. And on March 5th, I turn 33.

I’ve always felt reflective around birthdays. This one feels heavier in a meaningful way.

Thirty-three.

The age many scholars believe Jesus was when His earthly work reached its climax. Not the beginning of His influence. The fulfillment of it.

That has changed something about how I see time.

Impact doesn’t come from intensity alone. It comes from alignment.

And that brings me to what I’ve been learning.

Incentives vs Motivation

One of the clearest ideas from How Will You Measure Your Life? is the difference between incentives and motivation.

An incentive is when you try to get someone to do what you want them to do.

A bonus. A KPI. A target. A threat. A reward.

It works. Sometimes.

But only on the surface.

Motivation is different.

Motivation is when someone already wants something. Growth. Mastery. Contribution. Stability. Meaning.

You don’t push them toward it. You help remove what’s blocking it.

Incentives can produce performance. Motivation produces ownership.

And ownership is what sustains excellence when no one is watching.

This has forced me to rethink how I lead.

If a team member doesn’t deeply want the direction we’re heading, no incentive will create real alignment. It may create compliance. It may create short-term energy. But it won’t create care.

And care is what builds things that last.

Satisfaction and Dissatisfaction Are Not Opposites

This was the second idea that challenged me.

We assume that if we remove dissatisfaction, satisfaction will automatically rise.

But they sit on different spectrums.

Dissatisfaction often comes from hygiene factors:

• Poor pay

• Unclear roles

• Micromanagement

• Chaotic systems

• Lack of fairness

• Inconsistent leadership

Fixing these removes frustration.

But it doesn’t create joy.

Satisfaction comes from something else entirely:

• Meaningful work

• Responsibility

• Progress

• Growth

• Recognition

• Contribution

You can remove chaos and still feel empty. You can earn more and still feel unseen.

That distinction matters deeply.

Sometimes we’re trying to feel inspired when what we really need is to fix something basic.

And sometimes we’re trying to fix surface discomfort when what we really need is purpose.

Ecclesiastes 3:13 says: “That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil-this is the gift of God.”

Notice it doesn’t say success. It says satisfaction in toil.

Not escape from work. Alignment within it.

What 33 Is Teaching Me

As I step into this next year, as you know, I’m thinking less about scale and more about substance.

I’m done building systems that require me to push people toward outcomes they don’t actually want. If the work doesn’t connect to something they already care about, I’d rather redesign the work or help them find something that does. Misalignment is expensive for everyone involved.

I’m also done assuming that removing frustration is the same as creating fulfillment. I’ve spent years optimising processes, tightening operations, fixing inefficiencies. All of that matters. But I’m learning that a well-run company with no soul still leaves people empty. The next season isn’t about making Workspace run smoother. It’s about making sure the work itself means something to the people doing it.

The last 33 years have taught me something simple:

Success without alignment eventually hollows you out. Alignment without courage leaves potential unused.

The work is holding both.

My prayer for you this week is that you stop measuring your life by how much you’re producing and start measuring it by whether the work feels coherent inside.

If you’re leading people, ask whether you’re building alignment or just managing compliance.

If you’re being led, ask whether the dissatisfaction you feel is about broken systems or missing meaning. Because the solution to each is entirely different.

We don’t control how long we have.

But we do get to decide what we get to build.

Please. Build something that leaves you whole.

With clarity,
Sydney

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